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I am scared that he is not telling me the truth, so I have to assume the worst – though he claims he never physically cheated on me, I don’t believe him. I hope that counseling and time will help you see that you do have a problem and you can begin the healing process.

I stupidly believed, as I genuinely thought that this man had the heart of a saint – warm, kind, just a dream, really.

He spoils me in every way and I love him very much. Then earlier this week I was on the computer again and his work email was up. 99.9% was work, but there was 3 email exchanges that he had had with a brief girlfriend back in the states that I opened – he had just written them day before. She had originally contacted him, asking him how he was.

He left early to start his new job, the original reason to move back).

I had found HUNDREDS of emails from complete strangers on Craiglist – ALL SEXUAL in nature and that he had even been sending his picture to some women (just his picture of himself, not his genitals).

I have never been so close in my life to hitting someone with intentions to create immense bodily harm. I immediately told him that he is to go to treatment and I will set boundaries, and it he does not seek treatment or abide by my boundaries, I will leave an divorce him.

He has since admitted that he has a problem and broke down in tears saying that he is so torn inside and feels that he has a “Bad” self and a “good” self – but doesn’t know what the problem is and has agreed very willingly to seek treatment and help right away. I have attached that document, if you would like to see it. Every bone in my body is telling me to divorce and never look back.

I just found out about my husband’s secret earlier this week.

I am emotionally drained, but I am hoping that by sharing my story, I will feel at least a little better.

COUNSELING: You have to accept right now that counseling may have to be a part of your life for a very long time, and by long time, I mean years.

For the immediate/foreseeable future: You will go to counseling once a week for a period of 6 weeks (however, if your counselor feels that you should be going more, then you will), and I will go to counseling individually as well.

I am self-sustainable, still young (turning 27 in February). He isvery kind and funny, and smart and successful, and I believe him when he says that he wants treatment and that this marriage is the most important thing in his life.