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How to be friends after dating

Just as you like to spend time with your special friends, I also want some time to be with my friends."With pre-teens and young teens (11-14) you can broach the topic of dating after the divorce. I'm wondering how you feel about me starting to date." Note: This does not mean that you are asking your child's permission to date. You are simply initiating discussion that is likely to be ongoing.

Should I wait until my children are grown before dating?

This is obviously a very personal decision with no one right answer.

What you say to your children when you begin dating after your divorce will depend largely on their age. You'll be in bed when I get home."With school-age children (6-10) you can begin to provide more information.

If you need a reminder about what to expect at each developmental stage have a look here When talking with young children (infants and toddlers) describe the person you are seeing as a friend. I'll be back soon."With preschoolers (ages 3-5) still describe the person you will be going out with as as friend. You will likely want to have a more in-depth conversation about dating.

Dating after divorce is as hard on kids as it is on parents.

If your children attach to every person you date, they are likely to be hurt and experience loss each time the relationship doesn't work.

If you learn that your new partner is doing any of the following, check it out.

Children deserve to be comfortable and safe in their own home.

Know yourself, know your children and ask yourself this key question: Is this a decision I think is best for my children, or am I reacting out of guilt or fear?

If your answer is the latter, you may want to address these powerful and often destructive emotions before making a final decision about dating after divorce.

For example, "I'm going to have dinner with a man/woman that I met at work.